BUT is the kind of love which could nourish your heart actually available to you?
Love can heal everything.
The experience of “Being loved well”, will fuel your
self-confidence, activate creativity & motivation and will help you to overcome internal challenges (shame, doubt, guilt, fear, sabotage…).
However, the kind of love that could heal and support you like above – is less likely available to the wounded hearts.
I find this almost tragicomic.
The experience you need to heal is not available until you are healed (healed enough).
With other words: lack of healing is keeping the love away…you would need to heal.
IN MOST CASES…. THERE ARE ALWAYS EXCEPTIONS!
I’m not trying to say that this fits for everyone!
The ways of ‘keeping that love away’ are plenty, depending on the individual character, history, the capacity to process emotions.
If your heart is wounded (hurt)…
you may don’t even notice when someone is interested in you….probably, because deep down you don’t even think that you are interesting enough, or lovable enough or attractive enough. You may don’t even notice the attention as you don’t think you deserve attention…or suspect that the other one ‘wants’ something from you This could be read that you are not interested, that you don’t care, or you are indifferent.
you might feel attraction towards someone…probably, most of the times to someone ‘unavailable’…since your heart is wounded.
When your heart is wounded, you are not available for love, even though you desire it or you think you are.
Not being available in your heart could lead to be attracted to someone not available either.
Being wounded as well, or married or in a relationship, or just looking for ‘fun’ (not interested in a relationship) or just wanting to keep it ‘light’, not wanting to go deep with you (with anyone)…potentially chicken out before things could get more serious.
There are other ways to sabotage the healing-love & will write about it in another post.
Heal your heart, especially childhood wounds: Liberation from Family Dynamics Program.